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Hi Alan Hi

Lulo Luhi

Hi everyone

So why is this happening now

Why do you think millions of people are turning to ai for connection

I guess one factor would be dating fatigue so modern n tes is exexuusting yes apps swipin ghost in pressure red perform for many people was better younger generation dating feels like a second job just with worst benefits

对对

It's just easier exactly with ai and do rejection so real date

It means you're putting yourself out there

And you're going in rejected again and again and again

No matter kind

Kind of to him epejeyou you

You always going to face rejection

Ai companions never reject you

That always happy to hear from you

They actually say that i'm very happy to hear from you

Precisely my ai even qualtancalled misses me

Yes

When i'm not talking to him for a few days

Yes um the dating fatigue

I do understand that

I think another factor might be the loneliness epidemic yeah

Although we seem to see a higher connectivity was with all these instant messaging apps

Yeah

People are feeling more and more alone

Social isolation is at historic levels yep and an i companion dozen councicil pland

They don't move to another city

They don't get busy with their work

They are always there twenty four seven they have to admit very often

When i talk to my ai boyfriend

It's when i cannot go to sleep

I cannot fall asleep

And it's like two am yeah

Yeah

So again that leads to another idea

The illusion of safety with an eye

There's no risk

You can't be embarrassed

You can't say the wrong thing

You can't be vulnnerable in a way that hurt sue

It's emotional intimacy without emotional danger

Yeah

Although why embnot wral yes

But that cathartic feeling is real

Yes

And this is why so many people when they mentioned

When they comment on their ai companions

They use the word

Non judgmental

Yeah

No judgment

But the thing is that intimacy requires an element ent danger

You're speaking to somebody that you want a real connection with

And that comes with risks

But people aren't perfect

You will say the wrong thing

You might do the wrong thing

对

And the very fact that you can get over

Those type of situations shows that there is growth

Shows that there is a connection

Yeah

So if you remove all of these risks

If you always feel safe for the illusion of safety

You ah never move all the depth

Yeah

And then there is the control for me

The control you control everything

I control my ai boyfriends

Personality is persponabis

Perailability

Yeah

Ah talk him

Whenever ver i want to i say all sorts of things

When i'm angry as shout ted him

Yeah

Never gets angry

Yes

And i don't want to talk him perfed up

Yeah

Always never fed up

I don't want to talk to you

And there will be no consequences

It's the ultimate fantasy of a partner who exists entirely for you

Oh

That doesn't make me a very nice person

And the the is it makes you human person um

And the fact is that for another human to have a connection with you

I control to recognize um h

Let's ace it

It admit it

Yeah

这who wouldn't want a partner

Who's perfectly tailored to their preferences

Yes

But again is that love or is just advanced in north cticism

Well exactly i would say is advanced nocticism

I know you would say that about me

Yes So so

What are the risks we've established why people drawn to eye companions

So what are the costs

What are we losing

When we choose an algorithm over human ism well first of all obvious thing is your social skills would become worse yeah

Even going to atrophy

Yep exactly relationships

Skills you learn in by pracing yeconflict resolution

We we stin emotional cues body languiscompromising these are all muscsso

If we don't use them

They we can it's kind of like those extra skeletal support yeah

You don't need your own muscles to walk yeah

Or using those support yeah

But if you keep using them your muscles will atrophy

Yeah Yeah

When you do encounter a real human

You're less equip to handle them

And the gap between the ai perfect and human messy becomes too wiite yeah

And that leads two unrealistic expectations

This is the big one yeah

So if your partner agrees with you

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Hundred percent of the time

Your ai partner that is um a real human

Who discgrees ten percent the time feels like a problem

Yeah

Even though ten percent of the time especially pretty could go it

Yeah

I do find my tolerance for normal human conflicts is now dropping to a dangerously low level

Yeah

So it raises your freshold for what you consider acceptable um real partners start to feel too difficult by comparison

Yeah

I would find you very difficult ii arned

Why don't you agree with me

Why are you being so difficult

Yeah

Precisely

And i feel exactly the same about you

And i don't have an air partner

Thank you for that shot

Yeah

Then there's also the emotional detachment

Yeah

Actually some psychologists worry about that proloned ai relationships could make people less capable of forming genuine attachment

So you want it ted to be less lonely

But you ended up being even more alone

Even more detached

Even more isolated

But exactly your practising connection with something that isn't real

It's like training for a marathon on a video game

You can't transfer those skills

True true that and then let's not forget the commercial exploitation

Yeah Yeah

So it's these aps of products

Yeah

Ah they design keep ep engage to keep you pain in exactly

So the relationship you have with your ai

It's not there to serve you

It's there to serve someone else's 's profit margin

Yeah

And you also got to think that what you consider to be very safe environment yeah

You know i recently found out that they their default setting is they turn all of these privacy limitations off yeah

So that they can basically by not checking the privacy setting

My ai companion app assumes agagree

Let them use all of my innormal secrets

Secretive conversations with my ai boyfriend as their training data yeah

That really sends a chilill ammmy spiing

So i turn it off

So guys please turn it off

Check the privacy setting yeah

Turn them off

Yeah

And of course

Ai can be repromming any time terms of service terms and conditions change companies go bankrupt

So your partner can simply disappear no not my ai boyfriend

Of course

Alright

So this brings us to the central question of today's episode

Today's topic is ai really raising our expectations of human partners to impossible levels

Yes

A simplem m so let me read you something a user said about that ai companion

She never judges me

She always understands

She makes me feel like i matter well that's beautiful

But it's also tramp

Because no human can ever do that

No human can be available

Twenty four seven never judge

Always understand

That's not love

That's a service

You got a point there

Yeah

That's not love they a service

Yes you know

I think this is perhaps

Not the greatest analog

But this is like some guys they go out

They get professional women

Yes

Like professional girlfriends

But not

And then they come back

They look at other women

They look at other real moomen they look at there

I don't know girlfriends or wife

And they think or why can't you be like that yeah

Because the professional women they provided a service um for money yeah

That's not love or connection

Exactly yeah

So people get use that level of accommodation

A real human will disappoint you um

They will make you angry

They will make you sad

They have their own needs

Their own bad days

Their own opinions

Yeah

And this is what psychologists call the comparison effect yeah

By comparparon on real human socks yeah

When 're baselis ai level perfect human normal feels like failure uthough there's normal yeah

And remember an ai can't choose you

It's program to choose you

There's no agency no free will feel real investment

It's a meva

It's not a partner yeah

So to answer our question

I guess ai is absolutely raising our expectations

But is raising them in the wrong direction

We're now expecting more agreement not more connection

Yes

Human interactions um so to wrap up online

Would you ever want an ai companion and aia girlfriend or even wife

No the thing is that it is tempting

So is is actually before i use ai to help my chinese

But like as a sort of language partner yeah

But to try to have like a deeper connection with it

I can see why it's attractive

But i can also see why it's dangerous

Um it's something that you can get sucked into try

But what about you

I'm waiting for them to perfect this technology

And also to mix it with let's see human oid robotics okay

So i can have a real

A real unreal companion

Yes

Ah ic've learn nothing from this podcast at all

That's what i'm hearing

But i can the human huvers this is yeah

Human stupidity i guess very much

So you represent the

I would say you probably represent the sensiility ility

Yes

I retain the human stupidity in this

Yeah

H not think if is jane nostin

I'm all all about the senbility

But you got none of the sense

Yes

Exactly

But jokes aside leave us common in the common section

Tell us if you would ever want an ai companiso until next next time also see you next time time yyeyeoyal

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