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In the past couple of weeks

A traffic story about the loss of a young girl has been circulating social media platforms a primary school student

After being publicly humiliated by her teacher decided to take her own life by jumping off the building

I have been following up on this story

And there are many voices out

There many of them accused the school and a teacher in question others blame the parents

And there are even voices claiming that the poor girl is just too sensitive

Not tough enough

But today i don't want to talk about those voices

The final verdict is still yet to be reached

However despite all these voices

This tragic incident does touch upon a very serious issue that is bullying on campus

校园霸凌这个话题在中国也经常被提到

只不过当我们想到校园霸凌的时候

通常都会想到孩子之间的霸凌

So in today's episode

I would like to talk to you about another type of bullying on campus

所以今天的酒馆

我们就来说说另外一种校园霸凌

Wonderably is a teacher

Being a teacher

Myself for all these years

And being involved in training other teachers

I've seen many teachers

Some of them truly inspirational

But there are also the occasional few that really just don't deserve to be in that position

The fact is the majority of teachers genuinely care about their students

In fact many of them go beyond what is expected

Although they may have the occasional bad day

They're generally kind fair and supportive

But they are teachers

Who do not handle their responsibility

Their responsibilias well

And even some who bully their students instead of using proper discipline procedures

They use their power to condemn manipulate and ridical students

在老师的队伍里

确实会有那么一些人会滥用他们的权利去condemn 谴责manipuate

恶意操控或者是ridicual 嘲讽学生

And in some cases

These behaviors they just cross the line

And the teacher becomes the classroom bully

You might say its teacher's responsibility to discipline students

可能有人会说

老师本来就是要管教学生

So where is the line

How do you define bullying behavior from a teacher

While usually the definition is when a teacher uses his or her power to punish manipulate or disparch a student beyond what would be a reasonable disciplinary procedure

当一个老师超出合理的管束约束的范围

去恶意的惩罚

操控或者羞辱和蔑视一个学生的时候

他就从为人师者变成了一个bully

And to make it more specific

Some of the examples of bullying from a teacher might be singling out one student for punishment or ridical

长期的孤立某一个学生

单独对他进行惩罚或者嘲讽

Humiliating or shaming students in front of classmates 在全班同学面前羞辱学生

Being bullied by a teacher at school can have long lasting negative impact on a child's mental health

I think reading the tragic story

A lot of parents are concerned because unlike physical abuse

Sometimes verbal or emotional bullying are harder to detect

相对于体罚之类的身体暴力

孩子如果受到来自于老师的语言和情感方面的霸凌和暴力的话

可能并不会告诉家长

但how would you know if your child is a victim

And i've done quite a bit of research uncollected some of the experts

Opinions

And here are a few common signs that you can watch out for sign number one unexplainable illnesses

One telling clue that something is wrong is a child who used to enjoy school

Suddenly making excuses to stay at home

They may even experience nightmares on school nights

This could be a sign

That he or she is afraid of something

They may complain of stomach

Haacks

Headaches or other vague illnesses to avoid going to school

Sign number two complaints about the teacher

It's very common for kids to complain about their teachers

And most of the times

This is nothing more than a personality conflict

Or it might just be a teacher

Being more strict than your kid would like

很多时候孩子抱怨老师只是因为老师比较严格

However if your child keeps complaining about the same teacher

Saying that this teacher does not like them

Then what you can do is to ask a few more detailed questions to see

If there's anything to worry about for example

How long has your child felt this way about this particular acure has there been any issues of negative behavior from your child in the class

Has the teacher acted this way to other students pay particular attention

If the complaints about the teacher include humiliating your child or other children

The next sign to notice is changes in your child's behaviors and moods

If your child is a victim of teacher

Bullying they may have angry outpersts

在经历这种特殊校园霸凌的孩子可能会有情绪行为方面的变化

比如会突然无缘无故的发脾气

They may also appear withdrawn moody or cleaning

可能还会突然变得非常内向

情绪不稳或者变得非常粘人

And also watch out for negative comments toward themselves or their school work

Pay attention to self depreicating comments or excessively critical statements about the quality of their school work

过多的自我贬低和自我批评也可能是一个信号

If your child is usually a good student

And suddenly starts complaining that they can't do the work

Or they're not good enough

This could be a tell tell sign of classroom bullying having said all these science what should parents do

Many parents maybe somewhat reluctant to report bullying behaviors by their child's teacher

They often fear that they would make the situation worse for their child

However if a teacher is really bullying your child

It is vital

That you take action first of all support your child do it calmly being angry

Might frightened your child

Even though you're not mad at them truly listen to your child

And let them know that you believe them and reassured your child

That you will take action to stop the bullying

The second thing you can do

Especially if your child is feeling a lot less confident

It's important to help build their selfesteam

同时还需要帮孩子重建信心

When dealing with bullying

It is always important for kids to see their own strength

You can encourage them to focus on things that are unrelated to bullying

Like their favorite activities or even new hobbies do not spend all your time talking about the bullying instead help them see that they are other things in life to be happy about

And the next thing you can do

Is what a lot of experts

Suggest documents or incidents

This means keeping detailed written records or any other eviviors

That you can find about all the bullying behaviors and incidents

List the time and date of the incident

在面对来自老师的校园霸凌的时候

非常重要的一点是尽量多的保留记录和证据

Describe

Exactly what happened

What was said and who was involved

Right down the names of any other teachers

Students

Parents

Who witnessed these incidents

And if other students participate in the bullying as a result of the teacher's actions

Be sure to include that information too

And if possible find out more about relevant laws and regulations

The next step is to confront the bullying up

Front depending on how serious the bullying is schedule meeting with your child's teacher

But remain calm give them the opportunity to explain their perspective directly interacting with the teacher might help discuss and resolve the matter

If the teacher keeps refusing to meet up with you

This could also be a sign of bullying

You can also ask around ask other parents

If their children have similar complaints about the same teacher

Ask other teachers

If they know of any problems with your child and this teacher in question

And after all that is done

If the problem is still not resolved

You can follow a chain of comment 逐级上报

And if all of these actions fail to generate any result

Maybe the best action is to request a transfer for your child to a different classroom

To a different teacher

No matter what you do

Don't let your emotions get in a way of finding out a solution

That is in the best interest of your child

Even though i know this is easier set than done in the end

I just want to say that

When things like this happen a lot of casual comments on the internet

Would blame the victim for not being tough enough for being too weak

But the actual situation is if your child is really a victim of bullying from their teacher

It's a bad idea to just simply tell your kid to toughen up

Because unlike us adults for a young kid school and home are their entire life things that we might not think as serious means the world to them

Even though it might be really tough

To address the specific bullying is you especially when is coming from the teacher

What is always important

Is to show that you're always willing to listen and to be their support system

Then maybe similar tragedies can be avoided

That is the end of today's episode

Hopefully

You find these tips that i've collected useful in some way

And if you have anything to share on this topic

Don't hesitate to leave a comment

I'll you next time

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