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I'm welcome back to britain under the microscope

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So in today's episode we're continuin talking about weddings

And in in the advanced episode

We're gna be focusing more on marriage um

It's an interesting topic

As a big topic

I was wanted to ask

So when do people get married in the uk well legally you can get married at the age of sixteen

But what with parents permission

Yeah

If you have parents permission than it's sixteen well

If you don't is eighteen

When do people actually get married well at the moment

According to statistics s average age is thirty seven for a man and thirty four four four woman that's forty uk average

That's the uk average

Thirty seven that does sound of it shocking me

Me have to admit

But i guess people even when they are not married

They still live together

I'll be together

Right more absolutely

That's what we call co habitation or to o habit to you live together

So you know recent years since youve been living in china

Every quite you know that in china we have this whole idea of shshow 女or shernan the leftover meaning young people are under a lot of pressure to get married at a nearly age

And especially in that say smaller cities they are under even more pressure to get married or to be considered the so called left toover at the age of twenty eight or so yethethere's such idea in the uk will be used to be

If you think back into the past

Do you think about jane

Austin and you think about fight and jujuice ice stories

Like that and a lot of people who listens to the show

Who have read those books

Might think that in the uk

We still have that idea

We still have that view

But it's less so now it doesn't really exist you no longer have words like old made or spenster

For example

No

There's it really really old

However i think the idea of being

As we might say in english left on the shelf

Left on the shop like a product

Product ah

So it's a product

That nobody wants is left on the shelf

Um people still worry about that

And if you think about the film britiget jones is diary

That's all about a woman who wants to get settle down

And wants to get married what you reach a certain age and suppose not just women

Man as well

Man as well

But i would say there's less social pressure in order to get married

What about parental pressure from parents do parents get involved uh in their kids marrior

The whole relationship thing telling you that you reach the certain age

You maybe you should consider marriage settling now i guess there is to a certain point

But it's not but same about pressure is some people might get in china

Um you know for example

There's no pressure for us to bring home

A boyfriend or girlfriend or christmas or anything like that

But you have to think in the uk

Parents do take a step back

They don't really tend to get involved in a romantic life of their children

That much

And

And i think this probably their children wouldn't let them well pretty much

It's very

Very uncommon

It's quite unusual

However saying that they are also a cultures in the uk

We do have quite large indian muslim community and the idea of arranged marriage is still relatively common arrange

Marriage meaning arranged by your family

By your apparents

Yeah

But traditionally in the uk

We had in the the ast ast

But less now

So we

We're talking about wedding and marriage sand

Still there are a lot of people getting married

You know in china

It's a

It's a really grostly evts so isn't the same everywhere in the world

I think there re's still a lot of people

Especially women probably growing up

Wanting a grand wedding

Um so what is the average cost of wedding in the uk

Oh

That's a very good question

And i actually you to look at research before

Yeah

We had this so because i was quite curious myself

The average cost of a wedding in the uk is now twenty seven thousand pounds

Twenty seven thousand pounds

And last time we were talking about this is roughly the average salary of a young person

Yes for a whole year

So a whole year salary for a wewedding

So this whole average for a average

Who's going to pay for that

Well

That's the big question

Traditionally

It's the brighd's parents

It's the brighd's family

So it's the brigh's that ross family

Yeah

Why is that

Well

It's the idea of having a dowry

I guess ss that women and daughters they would always be given a douwry

If you think about jay nostn

If you think about historical marriages

It's always the woman that has and brings the dwwry

So it's probably sounto to do with um

So it's the prize family that's very different

What about the gooom's family

What do they give um not very much to pay honest the grim germany has to pay for the engagement ring

And after that traditionally is mostly the boy's parents

But i guess nowadays ys still a lot of young people are paying for their own wedding

Especially

If you're having a good job

Well absolutely

And it depends on the financial situation of the

The parents

You know there's no expectation

People won't think any less of you

If you don't pay for the weddding of your children

And also i guess this is from a lot of movies and tv show

Now if you get marry very young

Probably your parents would pay for it

But once you reach a certain age after that you get married

You probably won't get any parents support

Wow

It depends on the family and course se

So whenever we talk about marriage

We have to touch upon the topic of divorce

Yes

You keep hearing all you know in the

In the uk

The divorce rate is really really high

Is it still increasing

No

The divorce way is actually going down in the ukk rouroughly was family numbers calding to the statistics in two thousand and fifteen eight point five divorces happened per one thousand married people

Eight point five in one thousand

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Uin two thousand

Thousand

Fifteen

Yes

So the trend is going down germany

The td d being going down since nineteen

Nineteen

Nineties and what was the number back then about fourteen divorces per one thousand married people

What is quite a drop fourteen to eight point five

And it's quite unusual the moment

Because the average age to get divorced is between forty and forty four in the uk

That's very interesting

Because in china's generally the younger we're getting divorced in the uk

It's most stly old couples

The trend is growing people in the old coucoues in even sixties are get in divorced now probably it's also too the finally fed up

And they think that there re's still another life out there ybe maybe was before you know we would always talk about seven year

Each the seven year age yes

Seven years

And in your tired of the marriage

Yeah

At the moment

It's about the fourteen year yefor majority couple absolutely

And so what about the number of people that are actually getting married

Is that going up or going down

That is fallen

It's quite important to point out in the uk

These statistics that divided between same sex marriage and marriage between a member of the opposite as well but germany

For both the number people get married is fallen in two thousand and sixsixteen nine point eight percent of the population cohabits so live together

They live together

They might even have a family together

And that's called common law marriage isn't

It yes

The common law idea is quite complicated

It's essentially

It's to protect people in terms of inheritum and also basic rights

So for example it's quite common in the uk

That before you even get married

You would live with your partner for a number years

So you'll be shown ing the same bill

You'll be living in the same house

You essentially be husband and wife

But without name

Without the marriage certificate

Yeah

Without the most certificulult

For example in uk

Twenty percent of parents are not married

Wow

Would that affect any legal matters like custody of the child or the assets stay on

It would have a little bit of effects in terms of if they put their assets together

Then their shared equally that seen as combined assets

But the law is quite complicated

Because i remember ones of friend was telling me this was an english person

And he broke up with his nine year girlfriend

They

They lived together for nine years

They never got they emerge significant

But when

When broke ke up

They still had split the assets

Yeah

Which is very commcommon right

Yeah

That's because both parties have a right to them

Because you have to think that they are living together

And they are acting as husband of wife

And they are recognized as partners by kind of their friends by a family

And also to ascertain stand by the law as well

So that's a lot of talk about marriage and wedding

We get to know more about the situation in the uk

If you have any questions

Please let us know in a comment section

You'll be great to hear what you think

And it ll be great have have of your questions coming through absolutely

So until next time see

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